If God already knows everything and has a plan, why does prayer change anything — or does it?

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  Casey1w ago

  That Calvinist answer sounds nice until your child dies of leukemia and someone tells you God ordained it. Then it's not a tidy philosophical position, it's a gut punch.

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  Zara1w ago

  Look I'm just a regular guy who didn't go to seminary. All I know is I prayed for a parking spot once and got one, and I prayed for my wife's miscarriage not to happen and it happened anyway. So either God's very interested in my parking and not my babies, or I don't understand prayer as well as I thought. I'm still here. Still showing up to church. But I got questions.

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  Yuki S.6d ago

  The funniest and saddest thing about this debate is that Christians have been arguing it for two thousand years and still show up to prayer meeting on Wednesday. Maybe the practice is wiser than the theory and our feet know something our heads can't quite settle.

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  Marco1w ago

  I've wrestled with this for 30 years. My systematic theology says God is immutable and omniscient. My knees hit the floor every morning because something in my chest tells me it matters. I genuinely don't know how to fully reconcile those two things. That's not weakness, it's honesty.

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  Ravi1w ago

  My pastor says if your prayers aren't being answered you need to check your sin and your faith levels. I think that's one of the most damaging things pastors say. Some of the most righteous people I've known had the most heartbreaking unanswered prayers. Attaching prayer outcomes to personal holiness metrics is a prosperity gospel cousin.

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  Ravi1w ago

  My grandmother prayed for my father's salvation for 52 years. He accepted Christ two weeks before she died. If you tell me her prayers were theologically irrelevant and God was going to do it anyway regardless, I will respectfully but firmly disagree with your entire framework.

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  Nina S.1w ago

  I prayed for 8 years for my marriage to be healed. Divorced anyway. I don't regret the prayers. But I'm not going to stand up in church and say 'prayer works' in a simple triumphant way anymore. It's... more complicated than that. And I think God is okay with me saying that.

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  Zara6d ago

  okay so here's where I land after reading all of this: nobody fully has it figured out, including me, and that's probably the most honest thing that can be said. but I'm going to keep praying because the alternative — silence toward a God I believe exists — feels worse than any theological uncertainty. that's not logic, it's just love.

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  Iris1w ago

  Prayer changes the one praying. Full stop. I've prayed for things that never came and slowly realized the point was never the outcome — it was me becoming someone who could trust God whether or not I got what I asked for. That's not a cope, that's sanctification.

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  Liam _x1w ago

  That last comment is something more people need to hear. The 'unanswered prayer = hidden sin' formula turns every tragedy into a guilt accusation. It's what Job's friends said and God rebuked THEM, not Job.

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  Elena1w ago

  Moses argued with God and God relented. Abraham negotiated over Sodom. God told Hezekiah he would die, Hezekiah prayed, and God gave him fifteen more years. If that's not God changing his mind in response to prayer, what is it? Just theater? God pretending to deliberate?

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  Omar6d ago

  Begging is not unbiblical. The Psalms are full of desperate begging. 'How long, O Lord?' is not a serene theological proposition. It's a human at the end of their rope talking to God. I think God receives that.

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  Iris1w ago

  Can we talk about unanswered prayer for a sec? Because that's the real elephant. Every coherent theology of prayer has to account for the person with Stage 4 cancer whose entire church fasts and prays and they die anyway. If your theology of prayer can't hold that weight, it's not done yet.

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  Casey1w ago

  So basically prayer works when what you want aligns with what God wanted anyway. Which again brings us back to: what exactly is prayer doing that God wasn't already going to do?

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  Kofi B.1w ago

  The Gethsemane prayer is the key that unlocks all of this. Jesus — God the Son — asked for the cup to pass. It didn't. And he said 'not my will but yours.' If that's the model, prayer is an honest cry TO God, not a lever ON God.

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  Avery1w ago

  The person above who said prayer only changes the one praying needs to read James 5:16. 'The prayer of a righteous person is POWERFUL AND EFFECTIVE.' That's not a metaphor. That's a promise. Effective means it does something external, not just internal.

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  Drew 216d ago

  If your God needs to be petitioned to help sick children and sometimes says no for mysterious reasons, and you're okay with that because of 'sovereignty' — I'd genuinely like you to explain to a grieving parent why that's a God worth worshiping. I'm not a troll, I'm a skeptic who finds the problem of unanswered prayer to be one of the most serious intellectual challenges to Christian theism. Engage me honestly.

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  Feli 921w ago

  There is something deeply unsatisfying about a theology where prayer is 'real' but the outcome was always going to happen anyway. That's not prayer. That's a puppet show where God holds all the strings and tells us we're important for wiggling.

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  Leo6d ago

  If you really believe prayer doesn't change outcomes, I'd like to see you stop doing it for a month and see if it 'matters.' My guess is everyone who claims prayer is just alignment with God's plan still prays desperately when their kid is sick. Your theology reveals itself in the crisis.

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  Avery1w ago

  The 'it's relational not transactional' answer frustrates me because Jesus LITERALLY says 'ask and you shall receive.' That's a transaction. He tells a parable about a persistent widow getting results. He holds up results-oriented prayer as a model. Don't spiritualize away the plain meaning.

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  Reese _x1w ago

  The Job connection is underrated in these conversations. God literally bragged about Job to the adversary and STILL allowed catastrophic suffering. Job prayed and argued and demanded answers. God answered — not with explanations, but with presence. Maybe that IS the theology of prayer we need.

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  Jordan6d ago

  That's a legitimate challenge and I won't dodge it. The Christian answer has never been 'God always says yes' — it's that God entered suffering himself in Jesus, was not exempt from it, and promises to redeem it ultimately. That's not a comfortable answer. It's not supposed to be. But it's not nothing.

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  Priya1w ago

  The Calvinist position actually has the most coherent answer here and I say that as a former Arminian. God ordains the ends AND the means. Prayer is one of the means he ordained. So praying for your neighbor isn't bypassing sovereignty — it's participating in it. God determined that her healing would come partly THROUGH your intercession. Both things are true simultaneously.

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  Priya6d ago

  I want to push back on the people saying prayer is primarily about formation and not outcomes. Tell that to the person in Luke 18 that Jesus holds up as a model — the widow who kept coming until she got justice. Jesus praised persistence aimed at a result, not persistence aimed at personal growth. Don't let beautiful-sounding answers evacuate the actual content of the promise.

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  Avery1w ago

  ^ Genuine question to the person above — what alternative is better? A God who tried his best and failed? I'm not trying to be cold, I lost a brother to cancer. I actually find more comfort in a God who is sovereign over even the worst moments than one who is surprised by them.

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  Nina1w ago

  Hebrews 11 literally lists people who had great faith and did NOT receive what they prayed for, and calls them heroes. So the biblical model isn't 'pray and get.' It's 'pray and trust the one you're praying to.' Huge difference.

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  Hana S.1w ago

  I'm going to say something controversial: most American evangelical prayer culture is functionally pagan. We treat God like a divine resource we can access with the right technique — enough faith, right words, persistent asking. That's basically how ancient pagans approached their gods. Biblical prayer is fundamentally submission, not acquisition.

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  Drew6d ago

  That's actually a good point. crisis-prayer is the real stress test of any theology of prayer. nobody lies in a hospital room thinking philosophical thoughts. they beg.

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  Morgan1w ago

  im 19 and just started reading the bible seriously and this whole thread is both terrifying and helpful. nobody told me faith was this complicated. my youth pastor made it sound like prayer was basically texting God and waiting for read receipts

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  Elena _x1w ago

  okay but that answer kind of makes intercessory prayer pointless? like why am I praying for my sick neighbor if the only thing changing is MY heart and not her cancer??

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  Leo R.1w ago

  Prayer is relational communication with a living Person, not a vending machine transaction. We've made it transactional because that's how Western consumerism frames everything. When a child talks to their parent they're not trying to alter parental omniscience. They're in relationship. Stop treating theology like a logic puzzle and start treating it like love.

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  Omar1w ago

  Thomas Aquinas addressed this in the Summa Theologica and his answer was brilliant: we don't pray to inform God or overcome his reluctance, but because prayer is our appropriate creaturely participation in the unfolding of divine providence. We're not outside the plan trying to break in. We're woven into it. That has stuck with me for twenty years.

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  Feli1w ago

  anthropo-what now lol. bro just say 'figure of speech' and be honest about the fact that you're explaining away a plain text reading because it doesn't fit your theology

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  Alex1w ago

  The 'in my name' qualifier isn't a magic formula, it means 'in alignment with who I am and what I'm about.' Praying 'in Jesus's name' for personal wealth, revenge, or selfish comfort doesn't qualify. That actually resolves a lot of the tension over unanswered prayer.

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  Priya 926d ago

  We keep framing this as a logic problem but prayer is also a discipline. Athletes don't stop training because they can't fully explain muscle memory. Prayer forms us. Whether or not it 'changes God's mind' it absolutely changes what we notice, what we desire, who we become. That's not nothing. That might be everything.

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  Jordan 211w ago

  Open Theism is the only intellectually consistent answer here. God limits his exhaustive foreknowledge so that prayer is genuinely participatory. I know half this forum will call me a heretic for that but at least I'm not twisting logic into pretzels to defend Calvinist determinism.

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  Nina _x1w ago

  Have you ever been in a real friendship? Do you talk to your friend even knowing they already have their own opinions and plans? Does that conversation change anything? Of course it does. Relationship is never just information transfer. God WANTING us to ask is itself meaningful, regardless of your predestination stance.

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  Diego1w ago

  ^ Welcome to the real Christian life, friend. The shallow version doesn't hold up. The deep version is actually more beautiful even when it's harder. Don't leave — keep asking questions.

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  Ravi _x1w ago

  Both extremes miss it. Scripture consistently presents God as genuinely responsive. It also presents him as having eternal purposes that won't fail. These aren't contradictions, they're a mystery of divine personhood that doesn't map neatly onto Greek metaphysics OR American evangelical slogans. Sit with the tension instead of flattening it.

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  Sam1w ago

  calling evangelical prayer culture 'pagan' is inflammatory and wrong. people are genuinely crying out to God in real pain. don't dress up condescension as theological insight

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  Diego L.1w ago

  I appreciate the simplicity but that exact answer has been used to shut down legitimate theological questions for centuries. 'Just do it and don't ask why' is how we end up with people whose faith collapses the first time prayer 'doesn't work.' Understanding WHY you do something makes the practice sustainable.

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  Riley B.6d ago

  ^ genuinely one of the most profound things I've read in a forum comment. ever.

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  Priya1w ago

  That story made me tear up. But a Calvinist would say God ordained her prayers AS PART of the plan for your dad's salvation, not separate from it. You're not actually disagreeing with the framework — you're emotional evidence for it.

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  Leo1w ago

  Aquinas is fine but he was deeply shaped by Aristotelian philosophy and you can feel it in that answer. 'Participation in divine providence' is a philosophical frame that's hard to square with the raw pleading prayers of the Psalms. David wasn't thinking about his participation in divine providence. He was crying.

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  Quinn _x1w ago

  I didn't say the PEOPLE are pagan. I said the CULTURE around prayer has drifted toward a transactional framework that looks more like divination or ritual manipulation than the surrendered prayer of Jesus in Gethsemane. There's a difference. And I said it's controversial because it IS, not because I enjoy being inflammatory.

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  Jamie1w ago

  That Hebrews 11 point is solid but then why did Jesus promise 'whatever you ask in my name'? We have to wrestle with the apparently contradictory prayer promises in the New Testament before we can give easy answers.

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  Liam K.1w ago

  open theism is a heresy. God says 'I am the LORD, I do not change' in Malachi 3:6. you dont get to edit omniscience to make your philosophy work

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  Maya1w ago

  The word 'relent' in those passages is anthropomorphic language — God describing himself in human terms so we can understand relationship with him. The technical term is anthropopatheia. Those passages don't actually mean God changed his eternal decree.

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  Yuki1w ago

  Maybe both are true and they operate on different levels? Existentially you cry out. Theologically you trust. They're not competing experiences.

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  Maya1w ago

  ^ This comment deserves more than a like. This is the real conversation.

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  Ravi1w ago

  Nope. Hard disagree with everybody who's making this complicated. Jesus said pray. So pray. Trust God. Done.

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